Loneliness in children and young people

We all feel lonely sometimes and you don’t need to be physically alone to experience loneliness. Sometimes you can feel alone and as though nobody understands what you’re going through, even when you’re surrounded by other people. You can feel lonely if you:

Find it hard to make friends
Have moved schools and have started somewhere new
Have been abused or bullied
Have lost someone close to you
Don’t get on with your family or live in care
Have an illness or disability
Have an eating problem or are depressed
Have ended a relationship

If you are feeling lonely, there is a lot you can do, including talking to your family or teachers.

Top tips on tackling loneliness

Making friends isn’t always easy, here are some tips to help

Look out for people with things in common with you, such as similar hobbies and interests
Join a club, activity or volunteer, this could be inside or outside school and online
Find things to share, like sweets, a new game or even a song or video that you like
When you talk to someone make sure you are using positive body language, for example smile, look people in the eye and try to speak clearly

Are you being bullied?

No one has the right to bully you. Try to ignore the bully and report the incident to a trusted adult. You can call Childline for advice at any time on 0800 1111.

Starting a new school?

Going to a new school can be scary, but it can also be an exciting new start. There are things you can do to help you cope and feel positive. Find out more on Childline’s advice for moving schools.

Lost someone close to you?

The death of someone you care about, or even of a pet, can be very difficult. It’s important to remember that everyone experiences loss or bereavement differently. However you’re feeling is ok – cry if you feel like it.

Feeling upset, scared or worried is normal, but it’s also alright if you don’t feel those things. You might find your emotions very tough to deal with. Childline’s website can help with ways to cope when someone dies.