How you might be feeling
Grief affects us in different ways, and there is no right or wrong way to feel. You might be:
- Struggling to accept your loss
- Feeling numb, detached or overwhelmed with emotions
- Emotional dysregulation including feelings of sadness, anger, disappointment etc.
- Struggling to enjoy life or think back on positive experiences
- Feeling guilty
- Feeling angry
- Desire to isolate yourself from others
- Wanting to distract yourself with work or a hobby
Most people experiencing grief and bereavement have a period of sorrow, numbness, and even guilt or anger. Gradually these feelings ease, and it’s possible to accept loss and move forward.
For some people, feelings of loss don’t improve even after time passes. This is known as complicated grief.
Top tips
Try reaching out to loved ones that could offer some comfort during the difficult time. If you’ve faced a bereavement, sharing happy memories of the person and reminiscing can be a nice way to honour them and get used to talking and thinking about the person without being overcome with emotions.
Mind has a useful blog post about bereavement and experiencing grief. This includes information on the different types of grief and the ‘grief cycle’.
When to get help
If you’re struggling to cope and the things you’re trying yourself are not helping, take a look at the free support services which can help you.
Amparo offer support if you have been affected by suicide, and Bereavement Care offer support for anyone struggling to deal with bereavement.
Talking Therapies also offer support for people struggling with grief.
If you’re not sure where to get support, call the Portsmouth Mental Health Hub on 0300 123 6621 (Monday-Friday, 8am-6pm) to talk to the team.
